Steve dealing with casualties vs. Tony dealing with casualties
steve sees things in terms of the lives saved and who/what he can save
while tony only sees the mistakes and what went wrong and who didn’t get saved
steve is a man who is at peace with what he believes, who is a soldier and has accepted that there are casualties and they can only do the best they can do
while tony is a man who will never be at peace with not being good enough to save everyone, who isn’t a soldier and can’t accept that this is simply the best they can do
here you see two people who look at the world in very different ways and that’s exactly why they couldn’t find common grounds to agree on