kiriamaya:

That trans crisis hotline I linked the other day? Totally legit. Last night I talked to a wonderful trans lady who helped me survive the night, and without the clueless bullshit I sometimes get from crisis hotlines. Like, instead of, “Why are hormones/surgery/etc. so important to you? Can’t you just learn to be happy without those things?”, it was, “I know. I totally understand. I’ve been there. You have options, so please don’t give up.”

So yeah, great, life-saving resource.

floozys:

what stopping girl hate is about:

ending internalised misogyny and the prioritisation of men over each other

what stopping girl hate is not about:

expecting women of colour, disabled women and LGBTQA+ women to excuse racism, ableism, homophobia and transmisogyny simply because it’s coming from other women

could you maybe explain the drag queen thing i dont get it im sorry

poppunkvampire-deactivated20171:

drag queens often perform incredibly catty misogynistic stereotypes of womanhood and use a huge amount of misogynistic slurs and transmisogynistic slurs. it’s also incredibly common for drag circles to excuse or actively engage in racism, see Shirley Q Liquor, who wears actual blackface onstage (which RuPaul defended publicly and insisted wasn’t racist). and when RuPaul’s Drag Race was called out by the trans community for frequently using transmisogynistic slurs and then designing a game on the show where the goal was literally to “clock” trans women, the drag community rose to defend him, and he got away with a weak-ass fauxpology. additonally, drag is a performance, so the performers can shed womanhood (particularly the dangerous territory of DMAB womanhood) at will, and do not actually experience misogyny or transmisogyny in any real way. drag culture also often blurs the lines between drag and non-cis genders as a way of excusing transmisogyny, which perpetuates attitudes in queer communities that non-cis genders are performative and therefore to be judged on how “well” they are performed. this often makes cis queer spaces very uncomfortable for trans people; people will openly clock you and comment on your ability to “pass”. I have no problem with drag as a gender expression, or with DMAB people who express femininity, but I have a huge fucking problem with drag culture.